One of the fantastic things about recovery is that I finally beat the personality quirk of caring what people think. Sure, I postured like I didn't care because I thought it gave an edge to my public persona. In reality, I know I cared about what people - especially strangers - thought more than almost…
Continue reading ➞ Moral Judgement Only Hinders Addiction Recovery
A random benefit of the two inpatient rehab facilities I attended as an alcoholic and pornography addict was the opportunity to get to know, and better understand, addicts of various other substances and behaviors. I’ve never used heroin, had an eating disorder, or couldn’t walk away from the casino. Still, I learned just how much…
Continue reading ➞ Most Addicts Suffer Lack of Sexual Desire, Not Just Pornography Addicts
I know that I say this in every interview and write it more than once a day as one of the moderators of the Porn After Love subreddit, but it bears repeating to the partners of pornography addicts: It's not your fault and it has nothing to do with you. My porn addiction was 12…
Continue reading ➞ Partners of Pornography Addicts: It’s Not Your Fault, Ever
I'm well aware that there are many paths to addiction recovery, and many modalities within those paths, but I think unless your path takes you through the origin of your addiction, there's always going to be a piece of you that is more susceptible to relapse than someone who spends the time learning about how…
A challenge in talking to the loved ones of porn addicts is that they can’t understand the addict mind. They don’t share it. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to both quickly explain how deeply depraved and deceitful – yet with little remorse – an addict (really of any substance or behavior) can…
