Trigger This: Tackling One of My Final Fears This Weekend

I go back and forth on the concept of being "recovered." Since April 1, 2014, I have not had a drink. About 10 days earlier, on March 20, I used porn for the last time. If I'm now at a spot where I don't feel the pull toward either and can easily stay away, am…

California Sober: Just Rationalizing a Marijuana Loophole?

I like California. I like sobriety. Shouldn't I like being California Sober? First, history. I smoked a lot of weed back in the day. Between 1997 and 2002, it was a daily occurrence, sometimes more than once a day…usually more. I recognized that I used not just for getting recreationally stupid, as many of my…

Most Addicts Suffer Lack of Sexual Desire, Not Just Pornography Addicts

A random benefit of the two inpatient rehab facilities I attended as an alcoholic and pornography addict was the opportunity to get to know, and better understand, addicts of various other substances and behaviors. I’ve never used heroin, had an eating disorder, or couldn’t walk away from the casino. Still, I learned just how much…

Understand the Origin of Your Addiction

I'm well aware that there are many paths to addiction recovery, and many modalities within those paths, but I think unless your path takes you through the origin of your addiction, there's always going to be a piece of you that is more susceptible to relapse than someone who spends the time learning about how…