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I’ve Yet to Recover From Being Told Nice Things

I know. I get it. With everything going on in the world, here I am addressing a new problem: I can't take compliments. At least it's not my opinion about something on the news. I joke, because I think on the surface it does seem like a superficial problem, but as I keenly remember my…

When an Old Guy Scores Big on TikTok

I love my blog and in four years of running it, I've amassed 600 followers. With LinkedIn, I'm at 3,500 followers in two years and in my year on Instagram, I'm somewhere over 1,500 people. And then there's TikTok. As I write this, in 18 days on the platform, I've amassed 9,600 followers. WTF is…

Josh Hawley: Women & Freedom Are Porn, Video Game Addiction Causes

When somebody does something idiotic, like hold up his fist in solidarity with a bunch of people who are about to storm the building he works in (which is also one of the most important buildings in the world), you should just label the person a moron and move on it with. I guess that's…

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Horror Stories: Marriage Counseling is not Addiction Counseling

I hear a lot of out-of-the-ordinary things as a trauma and addiction coach. As a recovering addict and someone who worked through a lot of trauma, my story has its share of drama. No shame and no judgment, but there are so many people who have been through worse than me. Disturbingly worse. The people…

Trigger This: Tackling One of My Final Fears This Weekend

I go back and forth on the concept of being "recovered." Since April 1, 2014, I have not had a drink. About 10 days earlier, on March 20, I used porn for the last time. If I'm now at a spot where I don't feel the pull toward either and can easily stay away, am…